You’re not broken.
You’re not too much.
You’re just wired for protection,not connection.
But that wiring can change.
Secure to Love Again™ helps you gently rewire the patterns that kept you stuck, so you can stop spiraling, stop chasing, stop doubting your worth...
And start creating love that feels calm, mutual, and real.
I see you. And I'm so glad you’re here.
The Truth About Why Healthy Connection Feels
So Hard, Even After All of Your Work
Listen, I’ve been exactly where you are, stuck in the knowing, but still aching for something to actually change.
I would’ve given anything for a way forward. A path that didn’t just tell me what was wrong, but showed me how to feel differently, love differently, live differently.
To finally experience connection that was grounded. Reliable. Real. And most of all… healthy.
This is the message I wish someone had handed me when I needed it most. And now, it’s yours.
Strong Doesn’t Mean You’re Okay
The world sees your strength. But inside, you're still spinning, still aching,
still stuck in an anxious loop you can't name.
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Even if you’ve left the relationship.
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Even if everyone tells you how strong you are.
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Even if you’re still in it, smiling through the loneliness and telling yourself it’s not that bad.
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Even if you’ve rebuilt your life on the outside...
There’s a part of you still quietly stuck. Maybe it’s the spiral after a text. The ache of not feeling seen or even chosen. The exhaustion of overthinking every interaction. The shame that you should be over it by now.
But it doesn’t have to stay that way. Imagine waking up without that tight feeling in your chest. Responding instead of reacting. Feeling grounded in your own worth, even when someone pulls away. Knowing what it’s like to choose calm, steady connection… and actually believe you deserve it.
You’re not broken. You’re not needy. Your nervous system just never learned what healthy connection felt like. This program changes that.
You Don’t Need More Information. You Need Nervous System Repair.
You’ve read the books. You’ve sat in therapy. You know your patterns inside and out.
But knowing isn’t the same as healing.
Because you can’t talk your nervous system into feeling steadiness in connection. You can’t journal your way out of panic. And you can’t perform your way into being worthy of love.
That’s why Secure to Love Again™ is different.
This isn’t about tips, hacks, or high-vibe mantras.
It’s about gently rewiring your relational blueprint, from the inside out.
So you stop chasing people who can’t meet you.
You stop shrinking to stay connected.
You stop spinning, overthinking, and overgiving.
And you start trusting the voice inside you again. You start choosing and fostering connection that feels calm, mutual, and real. You start becoming the version of you who knows: I don’t have to beg for love anymore.
This Is for You If…
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You’ve read the books, sat in the therapist’s chair, done the work, and you're still spiraling inside
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You’re caught in an anxious loop that logic can’t reach
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You’ve outgrown your marriage... but you still carry the guilt
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You want to date again, but your body panics before your heart can try
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You're scared to trust yourself, afraid of choosing wrong again
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You crave love, but you refuse to abandon yourself this time
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You’re in something that looks fine on the outside, but feels hollow inside
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You call it chemistry...but deep down, you know it’s your nervous system trying to find familiar
And if you're still in your marriage, quietly wondering whether it can be saved or if you've simply outgrown it, this space is for you too. This program won’t tell you to leave. It’s here to help you come home to yourself. Because when you heal, everything gets clearer, and relationships either deepen with you or release you with grace.
If any of this sounds like you, you're not too broken, too late, or too far gone. You’re just ready for something different. You’re ready for something real.
Your Step-by-Step Map
Back to Secure Love and Healthy Connection
Secure to Love Again™ is a 10-part self-healing framework and step-by-step map back to emotional safety, secure self-worth, and healthy love, designed for smart, self-aware women who are done begging for breadcrumbs and ready to rebuild from the inside out.
This isn’t another mindset shift. This is nervous system healing. Self-worth reawakening. And radical permission to stop overfunctioning, stop performing, and finally start receiving.
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If you’re exhausted from trying to “fix” yourself, if you’re still spiraling even after therapy, or if you keep shrinking to fit someone else’s love, this is your way back.
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Through the Secure Connection Map™, you’ll be gently guided through a nervous-system-led, attachment-aware path to reconnect with your Secure Self™, the part of you that trusts, feels steady, and knows her worth.
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Each step builds on the last, helping you shift from anxious overfunctioning to calm, grounded clarity, one embodied, integrated transformation at a time.
So you can stop chasing, shrinking, and second-guessing, and start living, loving, and choosing from a place of calm, mutual, embodied self-worth.
This is how you become the woman who no longer abandons herself to stay connected, because she finally knows:
I don’t have to beg for love anymore. And if you’re ready to do the work, gently, bravely, one step at a time, I will help you get there.
The Path to Secure Connection, One Week at a Time
A steady, spacious journey to nervous system safety, self-trust, and emotionally nourishing relationships.
What makes Secure to Love Again™
so extraordinarily effective?
Science-Based, Soul-Backed
Grounded in attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy, CBT, the Gottman Method, brain-based coaching, and nervous system regulation, with compassion, clarity, and lived experience at the center.
This isn’t guesswork. It’s real psychology — in language your heart understands.
Tools that meet you
where you are
You’ll get nervous system tools that are gentle, effective, and real. Not fluffy. Not shaming. Not overwhelming. You’ll use them during the course, and again, when life gets hard.
These aren’t worksheets. They’re life long anchors.
Radical Repatterning
This isn’t more information, it’s transformation.
You’ll learn to respond, not react. To regulate your body, not overthink your way through love. To build lasting self-trust that doesn’t disappear at the first red flag.
It’s not just mindset. It’s muscle memory for your nervous system.
Your Pace. Your Space. Your Power.
This journey is fully online. No pressure. No performance. Just real-time support, in your rhythm. Whether you need to slow down, repeat a step, or pause for life: This program honors you.
You move through it. It doesn’t move over you.
Coming Home to Yourself
This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about finally feeling safe enough to be who you already are.
You’ll stop performing. Start leading. And let connection come from peace, not panic.
Healing isn’t about doing more, it’s about coming home.
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Clarity Over Clutter
We’re not here to overwhelm you with more platforms or pressure.
There’s no Facebook group to scroll.
No noise to filter through.
Just a clean, focused space to reconnect with yourself, and be deeply supported along the way..
Healing doesn’t need to shout. It needs space to land.
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This program isn’t just for women healing from a breakup. It’s also for those quietly unraveling inside a relationship that still technically exists, the ones who feel invisible in their marriages, who are still showing up but no longer feel seen. Secure to Love Again™ is a nervous system reset, an emotional reintegration, and a homecoming, whether you’re starting fresh, trying to stay, or ready to move on. Relationships just get better after you’ve done the work.
Meet Krista
I’m a relationship counsellor, brain-based coach, and social scientist who’s spent decades studying why we love the way we do, and how to truly heal.
I hold both an undergraduate and graduate degree in psychology, but more importantly, I’ve walked this path myself.
Before I founded Beacon Hill and created Secure to Love Again™, I was the woman who looked like she had it all together, but inside, I was spiraling.
I knew the theory. I did the therapy. I got the certifications.
And still… I kept shrinking in love.
Overgiving. Anxious. Caught in self-doubt and longing.
Repeating the same painful patterns, even though I knew better.
Until I finally learned to work with my nervous system… and stopped abandoning myself.
Today, my work weaves together attachment theory, EFT, CBT, the Gottman Method, mindset coaching, and nervous system science, but always through the lens of compassion, embodiment, and real-life integration.
Secure to Love Again™ was born from the very path I walked.
It’s the program I wish I’d had years ago, the one that would’ve saved me from spiraling, second-guessing, and settling for almost-love.
You don’t have to wait anymore.
Let’s get you to the place where connection feels safe, steady, mutual, and deeply healthy.
❤️ Choose your path, and I’ll walk with you every step of the way. If you're willing to do the work, I know I can help you get there. You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s take the next step, together.
Your Next Chapter Starts Here, and This Time, You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Each path is built with care, compassion, and the tools you need to finally feel grounded, seen, and supported, at your pace, in your way.
Real Voices. Real Pain. Real Healing.
You are not the only one who feels this way. These are the voices of women who dared to tell the truth,
raw, quiet, burning truths. The kind you only whisper to yourself when no one’s listening. And maybe, as you read them, one sounds a little like you. Or who you used to be. Or who you’re afraid you still are.
You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And you don’t need to have it all figured out. If you’re willing to name what hurts; if you’re brave enough to see yourself in these words, then I can help you find your way through.
You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be honest. And willing. If you're willing to do the work, I know I can help you get there. Let’s begin.
This Free Quiz Might Explain Everything
Take 5 minutes to uncover the hidden pattern that shapes your relationships.
Your nervous system might just be trying to protect you from pain it’s felt before.
Take this free quiz to uncover your nervous system style in love and connection, and learn how it’s shaped the way you attach, cope, and show up in relationships.
5 minutes.1 powerful insight. Your nervous system holds the map.
Have Questions?
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This program is not a substitute for trauma therapy or crisis support. If you are in need of immediate help, please get in touch with a licensed mental health provider or crisis line in your area.
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FAQs
Question: What is Secure to Love Again™? A: Secure to Love Again™ is a 10-week guided program designed to help you calm your nervous system, reconnect with your authentic voice, and foster relationships that are mutual, secure, and emotionally nourishing.
Question: Who is this program for? A: This program is for individuals who find themselves repeating unhelpful patterns in relationships, whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term partnership. It's especially beneficial if you're seeking deeper self-understanding and more fulfilling connections.
Question: Is there support available during the program? A: Yes, and you get to choose the level of support that feels right for you. Every participant receives full access to the 10-week course materials: video lessons, somatic tools, weekly journal prompts, and guided reflections; all designed to support your nervous system and emotional growth from the inside out. But if you’re craving deeper connection and real-time support, you can add on: 💛 The Secure to Love Again™ Circle Weekly Group Coaching & Community Support $240 CAD for 10 weeks (optional add-on) This isn’t just group coaching. It’s a sacred space for real healing, in connection. Each week, we gather live for: Coaching support Emotional resonance Nervous system integration practices You’ll hear the questions you didn’t know how to ask. You’ll realize you’re not the only one still hurting. You’ll feel witnessed, not judged, every step of the way. Let your story be held with compassion. Let the healing deepen in connection.
Question: What if I want and need more personalized help? A: For those who want private support, you can upgrade to the full 1:1 coaching experience. This includes: All group program content 10 weekly private sessions with Krista Voice/text support via WhatsApp between sessions A personalized journey tailored to your specific story, history, and healing goals This 1:1 path is $2,400 CAD and offers the deepest level of support inside the Secure to Love Again™ program.
Question: What if I sign up for 'The Circle' but I can’t attend all of the live group calls? A: No problem, every call is recorded and uploaded to your private portal within 24 hours. You’ll still receive: Full access to the replay library Reflection prompts based on each session The option to submit questions in advance for coaching You can participate fully, even if you can’t attend in real time.
Question: Is there a private group or community? A: Not in the traditional sense, and that’s intentional. We know the last thing you need is another app, login, or social media feed pulling at your attention. Secure to Love Again™ was designed to feel like an exhale, not another obligation. Our weekly live Circle calls are where connection actually happens: real women, real resonance, one powerful hour each week. No performative posts. No pressure to “engage.” Just a sacred space that honors your bandwidth and your healing.
Question: When do I get access to the lessons? Can I go at my own pace? You’ll get instant access to Week 1 as soon as you join. After that, a new week unlocks every 7 days, gently guiding you through the program at a steady, grounded pace. Why? Because real healing takes time. This isn’t something to binge through or rush. It’s about letting your nervous system actually absorb the shifts, one layer at a time. That said , we know life doesn’t always move in perfect 7-day cycles. If you need to go faster, just reach out. We’ll support you in accessing additional content with care, not gatekeeping. This is your healing. You get to feel both held and empowered in the process.
Question: What is your refund policy and how is my information protected? We want you to feel safe, not stuck. So we offer a 14-day satisfaction window, as long as you haven’t accessed more than Week 2 of the program content. That means you’ll get to experience Week 1 in full, explore the Secure Self Snapshot, and even join the first live Circle (if you added the group option), all before deciding if it’s the right fit. Because your healing deserves both commitment and clarity. We trust you to know what’s right for you. And we’ll always honour your courage for taking the first step. Contact us directly at help@beaconhill-relationships.com 🔒 As for your privacy: Your personal information is never sold or shared. We use secure systems to support your experience, and only collect what’s needed to deliver the program and stay in touch with your consent. Read the full Privacy Policy → https://www.securetoloveagain.com/general-1
Question: How do I access my course after purchase? After enrolling, you’ll receive a confirmation email. You can log in anytime at the top right of the page using the email you registered with.